Post-Partum: 1 Month On

Still reliving the wonderful time we had. Thanks Girija and Snitchie!!

Really liked the first day of our reunion.. the memorial service, the event at MRC, the poem of Thomas Phillipose and Roh’s reading, the Thambis dancing and the mates dancing at the Wellington Gymkhana.. and the second day.. hike to Rialah Dam, train/drive to Ooty, Kings Cliffe event.. and the third day.. Lake Pykara (what a vista!!) and dinner at the Gateway… Live band every night!

On our long flight back home Ann mentioned that I had wonderful classmates and she enjoyed meeting all. You know that is something we AFCSers should be proud of… we are a good bunch. Good bunch of mates

AND THEN IT'S  WINTER.... 

Parminder Dhillon

You know. .. . Time has a way of moving quickly and catching  you unaware of  the passing years. It seems just yesterday that I was  young, just married  and embarking on my new life with my soul  mate.  Yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all  the years went. I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it  was back then and of all my hopes and dreams.
 
But, here it is... The winter of my life and it catches me by  surprise...How  did I get here so fast?  Where did the years go  and where did my youth go?  I remember well seeing older  people  through the years and thinking that  those  older people were years away from me and that winter was so  far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be  like.

But, here  it is...my friends are retired and getting grey ....they move slower and I see an older person now.  Some are in better and some worse  shape than  me...but, I see the great change...Not like the ones that  I remember who  were young and vibrant....but, like me, their age is  beginning to show and we  are now those older folks that we used to  see and never thought we'd be.   Each day now, I find that just  getting a shower is a real target for the  day!  And taking a  nap is not a treat anymore...it's mandatory! Cause if I  don't on my  own free will... I just fall asleep where I sit!
 
And so...now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for  all the  aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go  and do things  that I wish I had done but never did!!  But, at  least I know, that though the  winter has come, and I'm not sure how  long it will last...this I know, that  when it's over on this  earth...it’s over.  A new adventure will begin!
 
Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn't  done...things I should  have done, but indeed, there are many things  I'm happy to have done.  It's  all in a lifetime.
 
So, if you're not in your winter yet...let me remind  you, that it will be here faster than you think.  So, whatever you  would like to accomplish in your life please do it quickly!  Don't  put things off too long!!  Life goes by  quickly.  So, do  what you can today, as you can never be sure whether this is  your  winter or not! You have no promise that you will see all the seasons  of  your life...so, live for today and say all the things that you  want your  loved ones to remember...and hope that they appreciate and  love you for all  the things that you have done for them in all the  years past!!
 
"Life" is a gift to you. The way  you live your life is your gift to those  who come after. So make it a  fantastic one.
LIVE IT WELL! ENJOY,  BE HAPPY  AND HAVE A GREAT DAY !
Remember "It is health that is real wealth and not  pieces of gold and silver "
LASTLY,  CONSIDER THE FOLLOWING:  TODAY IS THE OLDEST YOU'VE EVER BEEN, YET  THE YOUNGEST YOU'LL EVER BE  SO - ENJOY THIS DAY WHILE IT LASTS.

FURTHER THOUGHTS

  •  Your kids are becoming you.......but your grandchildren are perfect!
   • Going out is good.. But coming home is even better!
   • You forget names.... But it's OK because other people  forgot they even knew  you!
   • You realize you're  never going to be really good at anything.... Especially in the areas of your strength.
   • The things you used to care to do, you no longer care  about them. But you really  do care that you don't care to do them  anymore.
   • You sleep better on a lounge chair with the TV  blaring than in bed. It's  called "pre-sleep".
   • You  miss the days when everything worked with just an "ON" and "OFF" switch
   • You tend to use more 4 letter words ....  "what?"..."when?"... ???
   • Now that you can afford  expensive jewelry, it's not safe to wear it anywhere.
   •  You notice everything they sell in stores is "sleeveless"?!!!
   • Everybody around whispers....but no one wants to talk to you in a voice you would want to hear!
   • You have 3 sizes  of clothes in your closet.... 2 of which you will never wear.
   • But Old is good in some things: Old Songs, Old movies,  and best of all, OLD FRIENDS!!
Stay well,  "OLD FRIEND OR RELATIVE!"    It's Not What You Gather, But What You  Scatter That Tells What Kind Of Life  You Have  Lived.!!!